5 things that bother me about Gossip Girl

5 things that bother me about Gossip Girl

Gossip Girl turned 10 years old this year and it was a bit of a celebration. It trended on Twitter and we saw pictures and gifs popping up all over social media. Don’t get me wrong, I love Gossip Girl! As a matter of fact, I have been watching the show since it started. I have all the episodes stored on an external drive and often watch the entire show all over again on Netflix. Yet, there are few things that really bother me about the show.

1. Abusive relationships
Let’s start with the most obvious point. Abusive relationships. Best represented by the idealized relationship between Blair and Chuck. In season 1, he is emotionally and psychologically abusive towards Blair: he blackmails her, destroys her, betrays her. And he does not get better in the following seasons: he gives her hope about building something with her to ultimately break her heart while preventing her to build any relationship with anyone else. Then he sells her for a hotel. As much as I am trying there, I don’t see anything romantic in his behavior. The fact that they are the main relationship of the show is just idealizing an abusive relationship.

2. Slut-Shaming
Serena, Blair and Jenny are all three victims of slut-shaming. Serena through her past experiences and her reputation, that her boyfriends keep on reminding her of. Blair when she sleeps with Chuck to finally get back together with Nate and being shamed for it. And Jenny went she has a one off with Chuck. Whether they have many adventures or just a one off, the treatment is the same. They are shamed. Sometimes in a subtle way, sometimes in a not so subtle way. Sometimes by fellow students, sometimes by friends or family. And always women of course.

3. Twisted female friendship
Some people might say that the friendship between Serena and Blair is strong and friendship goals. Sorry but no. In 25 years of existence, never have I been acting in such a way towards my female friends. I may not have always been a model friend but never have I gone so far. Sleeping with your best friend’s boyfriend just out of revenge? Come on! Even within Blaire’s clique where girls are ready to do anything to be in spotlight and turn on each other for no reason. It just shows that female friendship does not really exist and is just motivated by opportunism. Not such a good example for young girls watching the show

4. Bullying glamorized
Something that didn’t shock me when I started to watch the show, and I apologize for that. I paid more attention when the discussion about bullying was out. Now that I think about it, the message sent by the show is awful. Blair is a bully. If someone stands up to her, she destroys them. Disagreeing with her, same treatment. If someone seems smarter than her, there you go again. And even though she pays from time to time, she still gets back to being a bully to get what she wants. She never gets fully punished for her past action and ends the series untouched (even though she improves in season 6). I don’t think Chuck or Serena are better by the way, because even if they are more subtle, they still happen to be bully in their own terms.

5. The double standards
Probably my favorite. The double standards you can see everywhere in the TV show. Starting with Serena and Chuck. Both have a reputation of having a busy sexual life. While Chuck does not face any consequences, Serena is clearly described as being the local whore. When Nate cheats on Blair with Serena, nobody makes a big thing of it. When Blair sleeps with Chuck before getting back together with Nate, everyone shames and humiliates her. In season 1, Dan, 16 years old, dates Serena, everyone finds it adorable. In season 3, Jenny, sixteen years old, starts dating Damian, she is schooled: she is too young, she has to focus on school, he is too old for her, etc. Double standards as strong as they can be!

Again, Gossip Girl is a show I really enjoy watching. Yet, the more I watch it, the more I find disturbing things. I just wanted to share them with you and hear you out on them. I hope I didn’t ruin the show for you and I still think it is worth watching as it also has its pros.

Did you watch Gossip Girl? Did you like it? Was there anything that ever bothered you? If yes, what? Does this post make it you look at the TV show from another eye? Tell me what you think!

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  1. November 19, 2017 / 8:09 pm

    Sadly every point you stated here is correct. It’s not exactly the most PC show at all, I’ve seen a few interviews where Blake Lively has said she wouldn’t be comfortable knowing younger people were looking up to these characters. Still one of my favourite shows ever though! x


  2. November 19, 2017 / 8:12 pm

    I love love love this show! I see what you mean by these different lessons though the slut shaming is quite prominent. I honestly hated the ending though haha

  3. November 19, 2017 / 8:15 pm

    I didn’t finish the last series but I totally agree with you. Some of the things Chuck Bass did and his attitude towards women was awful. Also the acceptance of bullying is shocking!

  4. November 19, 2017 / 8:17 pm

    I’ve only watched the first series so far but I totally agree with how toxic relationships have been romanticised, it’s not a thing to be showing young girls at all! And the way Blair and Serena have treated each other over men is awful!
    Alice Xx

  5. November 19, 2017 / 8:40 pm

    You know I’ve never watched Gossip Girl but from what you’ve stated in this article I don’t think I will.

  6. November 19, 2017 / 8:42 pm

    Omg, I loved this programme when I watched it before. But reading this makes me realise how bad it actually is with all these points. I’m surprised it got away with all these negative points!


  7. November 19, 2017 / 8:43 pm

    You summed up exactly what I was feeling about this. never understood the appeal of it.

  8. November 19, 2017 / 8:43 pm

    I still haven’t seen gossip girl but whatever I see online, it usually focuses on the bad points of the show. I know a lot of media coverage is this but it comes from a lot of fans of the show as well. I don’t just see that though of course, it looks like a show with its pros and cons.
    Lois x

  9. November 19, 2017 / 8:48 pm

    A lot of these things I barely considered when watching it but omg so true! I always found the Blair-Serena relationship so frustrating though and could never understand when everyone referred to it as ‘goals’ x

    Morgan x

  10. November 19, 2017 / 8:53 pm

    I am such a fan of gossip girl just because I find it an entertaining show to watch. But I completely agree with everything on this list, the friendship between Blair and Serena is the absolute worst. So toxic, none of the characters are good role models but I’m not sure it was ever intended for them to be xx

  11. November 19, 2017 / 8:56 pm

    Love Gossip Girl, but you’re so right! I’ve never seen it in this light before. I definitely never envied Serena and Blair’s friendship though, that was always odd to me.
    jenny | http://www.jennyrosee.com

  12. November 19, 2017 / 9:06 pm

    Do you know what I totally agree with you. I always say I love gossip girl but actually apart from the amazing fashion a lot of the relationships and the way the different characters are treated is messed up. I’d like to say it’s not a reflection on real life but unfortunately woman get slut shamed and men don’t and actually it shouldn’t be promoted on tv. xx

  13. Huda
    November 19, 2017 / 9:34 pm

    This is such a great post! I was actually just recently discussing with my friend that even though this show is super entertaining it’s quite messed up! I agree with all the points you have mentioned and I remember how when I was watching this show back when I was in high school I would get very frustrated with how Blair would bully people to get what she wants and never really get punished for it and super weird how everyone in their friend group has slept with each other haha!

  14. November 19, 2017 / 9:48 pm

    I loved Gossip Girl but I can 100% see these, it’s a shame because the show could have talked about some really serious female topics but it didn’t :/
    Great post though!

    Love Shan x

  15. November 19, 2017 / 10:07 pm

    I only watched a few episodes of gossip girl years ago but I still followed without really meaning to through tumblr and other social media platforms and I never really think about it at a time but you are right! This is completely disturbing and really worrying that we only notice those thing years later after watching it again…
    Great post x

  16. November 20, 2017 / 1:45 am

    I’ll have to watch it to see what you’re talking about 🙂

  17. Bookinggoodread
    November 20, 2017 / 10:58 am

    I started watching Gossip Girl but I’ve never finished it, I couldn’t really get into it to be honest might give it another go at some point 💕

  18. November 20, 2017 / 12:26 pm

    I watched Gossip Girl since when I was in the university. It’s one of my favorite series. I think what bothered me was when bullying got glamorized. It’s like mean girls all over again. PS: I also love mean girls. haha

  19. Ingrid
    November 20, 2017 / 2:44 pm

    I have never looked at Gossip Girl. but now I have a reason to watch it even if it is just ,
    If what you describe is true then the producers convincingly mirroring real life emotionally and psychologically abusive behaviors in relationship. The building up , giving hope , only betray and destroy are all hallmarks of these types of relationships. I hope that these episodes become self -aware, self-evaluative and teachable moments for viewers.

  20. November 20, 2017 / 5:27 pm

    I really do see your points here! I did really enjoy the show but there are some things that I don’t agree with the portrayal of. It’s like there’s no punishment for the way Chuck acts, he gets the girl in the end so I hate that there’s no sort of lesson learnt or anything. I never really noticed some of these things at the time but looking back on it, you’re completely right x

    Alice http://www.accordingtoalicex.com

  21. Kimberley
    November 20, 2017 / 5:33 pm

    I’ve never watched gossip girl! actually I think I might have watched 1 episode and hated it and never went back to it.

  22. November 20, 2017 / 5:40 pm

    I loved this show and its such a shame all these points are right!! The double standards are very much there and it really is quite annoying!!

    Sarah | http://www.sazsinclair.com xx

  23. November 20, 2017 / 5:48 pm

    Good points. I remember when I started watching this. I loved this show, but I never looked at it that way. Jenny was the worst character really. Thank you for this post!


  24. November 20, 2017 / 6:04 pm

    I haven’t watched Gossip Girl since it first aired but I can’t believe how oblivious I was of so many of these issues at the time! Fab post for highlighting the issues & double standards!
    Tara x

  25. November 20, 2017 / 6:08 pm

    I’ve only ever seen one or two episodes of Gossip Girl and I think you’ve managed to sum up everything I thought about it in a few pointers! I just had no interest in the series as I just don’t like what messages they portray throughout it all. I know after a while all of the points you made would start winding me up, so better to stop watching now before I drive myself insane haha!

    Jenny x


  26. Jenn JG
    November 20, 2017 / 6:19 pm

    I can say I have honestly never watched this show. But the points you make really make me have no desire to even check it out. Thanks for saving me the time!

  27. November 20, 2017 / 7:25 pm

    I never saw this show, but I heard about it. I’m not sure if it’s one I’d be able to sit through or not.

  28. Katie
    November 20, 2017 / 7:31 pm

    I never noticed these kinds of things when I first watched Gossip Girl in high school, it makes me sad to watch it now that I know how harmful these sorts of things are! 🙁 Well-said.


  29. November 20, 2017 / 8:07 pm

    I could never get into the show either. I miss wholesome family shows from the 90s!

  30. November 20, 2017 / 10:14 pm

    Oh my God, this is all so true! It does sometimes make me worry just how much I enjoyed watching it (I was late to the party and so have only seen the whole thing once) but there is actually a lot wrong with the show and we’re meant to be okay with it! Still love the fashion and celeb cameos tho…
    Bisous, Faz

  31. November 20, 2017 / 10:41 pm

    I watched Gossip Girl for a while but then gave up with it – some of it didn’t sit so well with me either I don’t think, it’s a shame.

  32. Claudia Krusch
    November 21, 2017 / 2:41 am

    Surprisingly Gossip Girl is not a show I ever got into. I have been hearing a lot of people are starting to watch it again. I will have to check out a few episodes.

  33. Shilpa Bindlish
    November 21, 2017 / 3:00 am

    I have not got the opportunity to watch this show, but after reading your post I really don’t feel like watching it ever 😣 it’s like creating a low self-esteem in a person.

  34. November 21, 2017 / 6:17 am

    sooo true! i started rewatching it a few weeks ago because i was obsessed when it first came out…i cant believe how horrible serena and blair are to eachother!! also blair was always my favourite character, but she’s just the biggest bully, right?! gotta take it all with a pinch of salt, its def still one of my fave programs ever but pretty sure if it had come out now people would complain!!

    but.. RUFUS *heart eye emoji* just the most beautiful, kind hearted, drop dead GAWWWWJUZ character EVER.

    katie xxx

  35. November 21, 2017 / 8:49 am

    Unfortunately, all of these 5 traits are still relevant in many shows and movies. It’s annoying. Sometimes you can tell many of these shows are written from a man’s perspective with their unaligned expectations of women and relationships.

  36. November 21, 2017 / 12:54 pm

    I am actually re watching Gossip Girl as we speak it is one of my favourite shows but I do agree that it does glamorize abuse, although Chuck realizes how badly he treated her and transforms into a good person. Nevertheless the themes can be problematic at times x

  37. Kiwi
    November 21, 2017 / 3:45 pm

    All of these things sounds horrible. I dont watch the show and reading your list of things that bother you makes me seriously never want to watch it.

  38. Kayleigh Zara
    November 21, 2017 / 7:03 pm

    I have to totally agree with you I started rewatching gossip girl around a year ago and all of this is more than two especially with double standards and slut shaming x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌿www.kayleighzaraa.com

  39. November 21, 2017 / 7:08 pm

    Hi, I am afraid that i have not wartched this show but glamourised bullying is not good.

  40. November 21, 2017 / 7:09 pm

    wow, this was such an interesting post! I loved watching Gossip Girl, in fact I have watched it twice. But I didn’t even notice some of these, specially the double standards thing! Its crazy how the media slips these things in & I didn’t even notice so I’m sure others didn’t either!! Eye opening, great post! X

  41. November 21, 2017 / 7:11 pm

    Oh my, I’d never thought of all of these! I personally love gossip girl, it’s something like you I’ve rewatched again and again! Some of your points are so right though, especially about Blair and Chucks relationship!
    PaleGirlRambling xo

  42. November 21, 2017 / 7:15 pm

    I am not going to lie, I absolutely loved Gossip Girl and I got a little obsessed. But that’s because it was a little ridiculous and so far from reality. Completely agree with you though!

    Holly x

  43. Hayley
    November 21, 2017 / 7:16 pm

    I’ve never seen Gossip girl other than the bad points you still seem to enjoy it so maybe I should actually give this show a try x

  44. November 21, 2017 / 7:18 pm

    This is such a great blog post idea ! I’m afraid I watched Gossip girl a long time ago and forgot most of it.

    November 21, 2017 / 7:24 pm

    I have never watched gossip girl but all my friends love it! I will most likely not be watching it now…

  46. Lea
    November 21, 2017 / 7:29 pm

    Oh you are so right. I’ve never watched it really cloesly but when it was on TV I occasionnaly had a look but all those things are just what the show was about and thinking about it now really makes me question it’s popularity.
    Lea, xx

  47. November 21, 2017 / 7:39 pm

    To me the worst part is how Chuck tried to r*pe Jenny in the pilot and for the rest of the series everyone acted like it never happened.

  48. November 21, 2017 / 7:40 pm

    I was never a big fan of gossip girl but I like your post 🙂

  49. November 21, 2017 / 7:49 pm

    I’ve never watched Gossip Girl and I’ve definitely heard some of the things you’ve listed here before – part of the reason why I chose not to watch it! Normalising these sorts of things in TV shows is incredibly dangerous! Great post!

  50. November 21, 2017 / 7:58 pm

    Never seen Gossip Girl, but from what you outlined here, I can see I wouldn’t enjoy it.

  51. November 21, 2017 / 8:21 pm

    Oh it doesn’t sound very nice….I have always wondered about Gossip Girl as I have never watched but from what you are staying, it is not worth it at all….no wonder young women and men are confused about relationship and friendship.

  52. November 21, 2017 / 8:48 pm

    I loved it for a while, but it kind of made me depressed, everything is so unobtainable, even the bullying is next level! I can see why some young girls are all about the drama!

  53. November 21, 2017 / 8:52 pm

    I didn’t even finish this series so I have no idea what happens in the end. Cute post though! xo, Suzanne

  54. November 22, 2017 / 12:20 am

    These are the many reason that made it difficult for me to get into this show. I just couldn’t take it and while my girlfriends found it to be amazing I just could do it. I’m glad I’m not the only one to feel that way.

  55. November 22, 2017 / 12:36 am

    I never got into watching this show while my friends did back in the day. I did not know these things were so prevalent!

  56. Lisa Dimaline
    November 22, 2017 / 12:40 am

    I loved this show was definitely a way to escape reality but you highlight some great and very valid points I’ve never thought of it in that way as shows to me are escapism but the bullying was awful to watch. Fabulous post Ladies xx

  57. November 22, 2017 / 1:29 am

    i haven’t seen it and im not a big fan of this kind of series, but it seems like it is not doing good for its viewers

  58. Marie
    November 22, 2017 / 3:35 am

    I love Gossip Girl! My bff abd I even call each other B & S because of the show. But I do agree w some of your points here, especially the one about abusive relationships!


  59. November 22, 2017 / 4:06 am

    I have not watched this show but my girlfriends watch it. I have heard few of the things you mentioned here from my friends too. I am glad I do not watch it.

  60. November 22, 2017 / 8:18 am

    I LOVE Gossip Girl but every point you make here is true! Especially the one about Blair and Chucks relationship!

    Love, Melissa x

  61. Courtney Blacher
    November 22, 2017 / 11:01 am

    I’ve heard that series before. I don’t think that I’d love that series. I think, everything you point here are true, because my friends are loves to watch it and agree to this post.

  62. November 22, 2017 / 7:53 pm

    I have never seen this before. I am not sure it’s something that I would watch.

  63. November 22, 2017 / 9:49 pm

    I never got into Gossip Girl. But anything that glamorizes bullying is a not go for me anyway.

  64. Shubhada Bhide
    November 23, 2017 / 2:30 am

    I haven’t watch gossip girl before. But I have heard about glamorizes and bullying and it’s not good for it’s viewer.

  65. November 23, 2017 / 3:58 am

    Thankfully, I have not. Nor do I ever want to. All the points you mentioned above, are reasons why shows like it are not on my to-do list. Shows that have everyone sleeping with everyone else, lying, bullying – just not my thing.

  66. November 23, 2017 / 6:54 am

    Honestly to tell I’ve never watched gossip girls!!
    BUT reading rough I have a idea developed😊

  67. November 23, 2017 / 9:02 am

    I’ve never watched Gossip Girl but I used to see my sister watch it all the time. I always wanted to watch it but would get into other shows. Not sure I will, not really into dramas that don’t promote kindness much.

  68. November 23, 2017 / 10:00 am

    I completely agree with you! Actually, I stopped watching the series because of some of those things… I watched the first and second seasons, but when I got to the third one I felt like nothing new was happening… There was no human development and it got to a point where their pettiness really had no issue being there…
    A shame because some of the relationships and characters were indeed promising.

  69. November 23, 2017 / 2:47 pm

    I have never watched gossip girls but my friend is crazy about it..she keeps telling me about Blair’s dressing styles!

  70. November 23, 2017 / 5:09 pm

    I don’t watch this show but generally speaking, it’s terrible how many popular series and books operate with a glorified image of despicable behavior. I do think it’s damaging for society. It’s not a problem that these forms of behaviour are shown, the problem is that they are not portrayed in an honest way. There is nothing romantic about abuse in a relationship, bullying ruins the life of many people, etc. I love your post! It sheds light on aspects in shows to which a lot of people pay little attention.

  71. November 23, 2017 / 7:22 pm

    I’ve never watched gossip girl and based on what you summed up, I don’t think it will sit well with me either. So, I’m glad I didn’t miss much.

  72. Blair villanueva
    November 23, 2017 / 9:48 pm

    I agree with your observations. But still the story is a fiction and shouldn’t be applied in real life. If you do, then its the human’s choice and not because of the movie.
    It doesn’t bother me, coz the story stays as just a story.

  73. November 24, 2017 / 10:11 am

    I always hear people talk about how amazing Gossip Girl is so this was really interesting to read and made me think a lot more about what I’m watching.

  74. TColeman
    November 24, 2017 / 12:37 pm

    I really like this show but I can agree with what you are saying. I think though this is what gives the show the appeal in some ways.

  75. Ana Vukosavljevic
    November 24, 2017 / 5:01 pm

    I love this show! I agree for everything you said but I think in the way they showed it’s kinda realistic in a way that all of these things exist in a real life but that doesn’t mean we should celebrate them and act like that

  76. November 27, 2017 / 9:21 pm

    I never watched this show but I know it was so popular!

  77. November 28, 2017 / 10:53 am

    EVERYTHING BOTHERS ME ABOUT GOSSIP GIRL! Was such a rubbish ending. i feel like they had to lump the gossip girl on someone and it ended up being dan. in my thoughts he could never have been gossip girl in the first place. i never added up!

  78. December 3, 2017 / 9:12 pm

    What? You have all the episodes on an external hard drive? How? Can you please tell me how. Feel free to email me. I love that show! One of my faves.

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