The good thing is life is that it is full of surprises. You can never really know what’s gonna happen. You can make destiny go towards a certain direction with the choices you make. And face the consequences. Or you can just things happen without having any power to do or change anything. Those things – 100% serious or not – that sometimes, may break your heart and teach you some important lessons.
1. When I left New Zealand
I moved to New Zealand in July 2012 for a year abroad as part of my bachelor degree. I could barely speak English and the jump was terrifying. The feeling didn’t last long. I never had as much fun in my life as I did back then. I met a lot of amazing people, explored the country, got to party a lot. This experience brought me so much. I became more independent, creative, out-going and open-minded. Living abroad made me change my perception of myself, others and many things. It kinda liberated me: socially, personally and sexually. I was myself, free and a party girl. A blast. Yet, the experience would not last forever. As I stepped foot in the plane, realizing I would probably never see New Zealand again, I cried. I am emotionally tied to the country for all it gave me and leaving broke my heart.
2. When I realized things only happen once
Barely back from New Zealand, I moved to Italy. I have had such a blast the year before. Hence, I thought Italy would be as great, even better. I was comparing everything with my kiwi experience and obsessed with making it the same. Unfortunately, I realized the hard way nothing happens twice. As a matter of fact, the party girl in me slowly died getting used to a really different drinking and student culture. I did a dual degree in Turin and was a full-time regular student, not an Erasmus student. 32h of classes per week, Saturday mornings included. I had little time left to party and my classmates were only focused on studying which left really few people to party with. Turin was not Wellington. I had wasted most of the year when I realized it and needed to find a way to make the weeks I had left great. Different in many ways but still great. Italy brought me a lot too. Yet, realizing things would never be as good as in New Zealand broke my heart.
3. When Fred died
I have no sympathy for Snape as he was unbearable, a bully and a jerk who didn’t have to act the way he did despite all his so-called reasons. It is open to debate and I won’t discuss it here. My point is, his death let me indifferent. However, Fred’s death… Fred and George were the light and soul of the story. They were joy, fun and boldness in darkness. When George lost his ear, I was upset but relieved: it could have been worse! But when Fred died… The pair were my favorite characters from the series. And Fred died. Things were never going to be the same. I’d rather have Percy die than Fred. But I am not the writer and I also understand her creative choice. I would have probably made the same. But still, his death broke my heart.
4. When the UK voted Brexit
As part of university, I studied European institutions, Community Law and International Relations. The best essay I ever wrote was on the European Community as why it was first created to illustrate the notion of Interdependence Liberalism. A+ my friends. I already knew quite a lot about the European project but I learnt even more. The main goal of the European Community, now European Union, was to keep peace in Europe after three wars by strengthening cooperation on many levels: economic, political, cultural, etc. How beautiful was the idea? And still is! I do believe the EU is something beautiful and still serving its purpose: peace for more than 50 years in Europe! It has many flaws but as everything; and the only way to fix them is to stay and work on them. The EU brings so much to young people and gave me so much. I was not expecting a Brexit vote and I woke up in shock the day after: even more so if immigrations (and racism) was the main reason of the vote. Although I don’t understand it, I respect the vote. What is done is done. But it still broke my heart.
5. When I realized life was never going to go as planned
Life is the most unpredictable thing. Things never happen the way you want. You expect your life to follow a certain schedule: go to university, experience as much as possible, graduate, find a job, make a lot of money and live happily ever after. I realized the hard way it rarely works like that. After handling in my dissertation, I got a graduate job in a consulting company. I had to do an unpaid training before being placed with one of their clients. However, for many reasons, it never happened. Six months wasted. The training was still useful. Yet, I felt like a failure. Then got a job I actually love. And my relationship turned into a long distance relationship. I guess you can’t have everything. It is just a fact and I don’t complain: I know how hard the job market is. I just was not expecting things to go that way. I have now accepted it and I am making the most of every experience. Having all my plans going up in smoke broke my heart but taught me an important lesson: life is unpredictable – which is also why it’s beautiful – and things happen for a reason. Maybe that consulting job was not for me. I am now realizing that it really was not.
What about? Any stories to share? What lessons has life taught you? Are there anything you planned that didn’t go as expected? How did you handle it? What serious or not so serious things break your heart?
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