We have all been in that situation where we had to look for a flat and share it with other people. Flat hunting is one of the most annoying things in the world. Thus, we have all prayed for our new flatmates to be cool and clean people. However, it must come from both sides: you cannot impose rules on others without abiding to them yourself. You don’t want to upset your flatmates and in order to preserve the good atmosphere in your flatshare, here are few things you should always be doing:
Basic Rules of Living Together
Respect others’ boundaries
As much as I enjoy telling my life to other people and speaking to my flatmates, I also enjoy being by myself when I get home from work. After a long day, everybody wants to be in the quiet. If a flatmate is staying in their room, it is for a good reason. Leave them alone and wait for them to come out. If your flatmate is being quiet or watching TV on their own, don’t assume you can step in and disrupt. Having a private life in a flatshare isn’t the easiest thing. Hence, you and your flatmates should really try to facilitate it by respecting each other’s boundaries.
Clean after you’re done
As a student or young professionals in a tiny flat, we don’t usually have a dishwasher. And hand-washing the dishes is super annoying. So you may be tempted to let your dirty plates in the sink. Please, dont. Ever. Dirty dishes may accumulate, get out of hand and piss everybody off. Same when you eat or throw a party. Clean everything after you’re done. It is really unpleasant to clean someone else’s mess. You’re not a kid anymore and your flatmates are not your cleaning person. Just be respectful, you’ll avoid unproductive fights.
Ask permission first
We are not all party animals. Although some of us enjoy throwing massive flat parties every weekend, others don’t. Before organizing or arranging anything, ask your flatmates for their permission. Really, don’t be afraid to do so. They won’t be mood-killers and always say ‘no’. Do not worry, they will agree to a party every now and then and will appreciate you coming to them first. Your flatmates also live there and have a say. Expect it to be reciprocal. You’ve asked, they will too if they want to throw a party. And you’ll be happy they took you into consideration. Again, this will maintain harmony in your flatshare.
If you go on a holiday or a weekend away, tell your flatmates. If they don’t know where you are, they might get really worried. They might call your parents or even the police if no one has a clue where you are. So much stress for nothing. This is something you don’t want. As a matter of fact, you are perfectly safe somewhere else. When you invite a partner or a friend over, inform your flatmates before your guest arrives. Your flatmates don’t want your other half to see them half-naked out of the bathroom. Again, this is just being considerate.
Buy what you want to use
If you used the last toilet paper roll or finished the washing liquid, go get some more. You finished it, you buy it. Don’t wait for someone else to do it. Because it always ends up with the same person buying for the entire flat, which represents a lot of money at the end of the month/year. And it is not up to one person to pay for everybody else. The only thing you’ll get is pissing off your flatmates. If you’re not sure, implement turns for who buys what and when.
Do you have the same and Do you abide by them? Do you have other rules you would share with us? Have you ever experience an awful flatsharing situation because you or your flatmates were not being considerate at all?
I hope you liked this post. Thanks for reading.
See you soon,